For many people, adoption is a wonderful way to have a child and start a
family. Although not an easy decision for the birth mother or the adoptive
parents, with the assistance of a reputable adoption agency and facilitator,
good matches can be made and the adoption process successful and with little
stress. In addition to agencies, adoptive parents can also find children
independently through local newspaper advertisements or on the internet through
various registry services.
Take the online option for example. With this,
if you were interested in adopting, you would have the possibility of viewing
profiles to include in-depth details about both birth mother, possibly birth
father, and the baby if born, along with photographs. However, this type of
service also benefits the birth mother and/or father in that they too can view
potential parents for the baby. Once a connection is made, initial communication
would take place via email, phone, or letters, allowing each party to share
information or ask questions.
If the two parties believe there is a
potential match, a meeting would be scheduled to meet in person. The thing to
remember is that most adoption processes, even those done independently go very
well. Unfortunately, as with many things, there is a slight risk, especially
when using the internet to look for a baby in which a woman may pretend to be
pregnant just to get the money. You see, many adoptions for pregnant women will
involve her living expenses being paid until the baby is born, on top of a large
fee that generally starts around $10,000.
Keep in mind that if you are
interested in adopting, use good, common sense. In other words, pay attention to
things said, follow up on information provided, and if at any time your gut
instinct says something is not quite right, listen. In fact, even if you choose
an independent adoption, we still strongly recommend you have an adoption
attorney to assist. In this case, the attorney would be responsible for doing
some research, drawing up legal papers, handling the money, and so
on.
Two of the most common signs associated with adoption fraud are
pressure and guilt from the birth mother and/or father. In other words, if you
start being pressured for more money, or the birth mother/father begins to put a
guilt trip on you for money, food, clothing, and other items beyond the
agreement, you should take this as a red flag. Additionally, the birth mother
should always be willing to release medical information to you and answer any
questions you might have. If this information is held back, you should wonder
why.
Other warning signs would include the birth mother/father living in
motels or being transients, the mother refusing to accept medical care, and a
birth mother/father not providing you with a phone number and address where
she/he can be reached. Again, most adoption processes go smoothly, connecting a
birth mother with adoptive parents who will love and cherish the child. However,
the more you can learn about the adoption process and meet with other parents in
your same situation the more empowered you become to ensure you do not become
involved with fraud,as well as a broken heart.
Karl Hinsworth is the owner and writer for the website Adoption Mesa which a site
dedicated to researching Adoption related topics and contains all the very
latest Adoption news and views. For more details please visit www.adoptionmesa.com
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